A place for questions and reflections around the type two enneastyle.
These are the best practices offered during the webinar:
What a Two Can Do:
- Do several symbolic things for people that nobody will find out you are responsible for. You may fantasize about the person finding out and thanking you profusely – let go of even that!
- Spend as much time as you can alone using tools like meditation. Twos feel pressure from others, so to discover your inner truth you’ll need solitude away from that pressure.
- Make two lists of people: those who drain your energy and those who give you energy. Make a concrete decision about how you spend your time and energy with others.
I love making the two lists of people, those draining and those providing energy. In the effort to be likeable, if not loveable, by all, I see that I include the drainers, “just to be fair” and not leave anyone out, after all, I can help make their life so much easier, richer, happier, less problematic, you know, as nauseum. Hmmmm. And as is said “So, how’s that working for you?” I feel how acknowledging this “decision” will invite me to intentionally connect with those who really do feed me. Oh these aha moment you are helping us have. XOXOX
Thank you for your insight! How can you determine if someone is draining you? Is it a “knowing” or “feeling” awareness? I’m curious about your process.
I too am learning to distinguish between those people that drain and those that energize. It is very difficult to tell people “no” but I am feeling it is more necessary as my life, somehow, gets busier these days.
Learning to love myself and not wait for love from others has been a big challenge.
A question for Horti, Kathy and any type twos: How do you share feedback with others? What are your struggles? What tools do you use so you can be direct and clear, but not charged with emotion?