I would like to hear about how everyone is thinking about your wings. I feel like I have a slight wing, but it feels very subtle.
Hi Gwen, I think I have a 6 wing. I have been reading about that and it mostly fits. I’m still learning so not much to share yet. -Nancy
I have a question. I don’t understand how Co-Creation is the transformational idea for a 7. I don’t get how Avoidance and Best Case Thinking relate to that transformational idea. Any thoughts about this?
I think Co-Creation is the transformational idea because it forces us seven’s to slow down and look to others or to the divine. We often feel like we can take on the world – we can fix things – or if we can’t fix them we don’t want them anyway – so having to connect and create with another is a humbling process. We have to listen, slow down, be present, and acknowledge that we could be wrong.
Thank you Gwen. That is really helpful. Your words ring true as profound wisdom.
I realize that I didn’t really reflect on how the avoidance of pain ties into that idea of co-creation. We can only co-create if we are looking at reality. Both people/group in the act of co-creation need to start from the same place. If the situation has pain, we can’t skip ahead of the pain, we have to sit right in the middle of pain and acknowledge it is there. We can’t put on rose-colored glasses because the other person/group won’t see it in that light. When we lean into the pain, we can start from reality, not fantasy.
Pain? I don’t like pain! Kidding aside, I know it is an important part of life and pretending it doesn’t exist isn’t the best strategy. It’s just one I know well!
I easily identified with a 6 wing. I am sensing it is stronger than I first thought, but feel like I live in the paradox of always following the rules and breaking free to do things entirely my own way. Almost sounds schizophrenic! I find considering the influence of wings really helpful in understanding my behavior which sometimes perplexes me. God help my friends and family!
Hi Judi! I also have a six wing and have that same sense of paradox. In some ways, I love everyone and see everyone in the best light, but when I feel hurt I slide right into my six wing and feel people are no longer “safe.” I become wary (maybe even a little paranoid) that they will hurt me in the future. It is confusing. I’m grateful to have the insight of knowing where that strange and perplexing blend comes from.
Very well said Gwen. I identify completely. The fear of emotional pain. I know I have survived much emotional pain over the course of my lifetime, and not only has it not destroyed me, but I have gained real wisdom from moving through the pain. I feel that I am hard-wired to forever seek joy. And while that sounds like a positive statement, it has often times caused me to disconnect from reality, and to keep myself busy and distracted, rather that staying with what needs to be done. I have assumed that everyone is of course seeking joy and it is my job to help them find it. A life-long illusion. Sadly, I fear I have often been a source of annoyance.
Oh boy! This rings so true for me as well.
Gwen and Judi, I say Amen sisters! I, too, have a 6 wing and I completely know what you are both talking about. I am so familiar with the pattern of flipping from love and light to paranoid and angry if I feel even slightly hurt. And, a HUGE awareness for me recently has been that not everyone thinks our job on earth is to be happy. I truly thought everyone wanted that as their primary motivation in life. I even remember telling my kids that this is the goal of life. What a shock to learn that is not true for everyone.. Still blows my mind!
Judi and Nancy, so glad to hear your experiences that are so close to mine! We truly are sisters!
I have long been aware of my natural “6” wing, but over the years my “8” wing has gotten lots of exercise in my leadership roles. When I need to do so, I can be strong as a bull in a China shop, especially when there is a question of justice. To have a foot in two types that are assertive makes me a very strong advocate for those in danger of being tramped on! My natural tendency toward “6” shows up most in regard to fear. I can have a deep undercurrent of anxiety that saps my energy when I go there. That was very much the case in the months immediately preceding this past election. I am still aware of that undercurrent of fear as we remain in a state of uncertainty. I want things resolved with everybody happy!
Great insights! Yes, that “why can’t we all just be happy” feeling is very strong!!
Maryhelen, like you, I have been aware of my “6” wing for quite a while, but I realize that my “8” wing has long played a role in my life with both positive and negative outcomes. When something is important to me, I apparently “square my jaw and plunge ahead” according to my children. It’s amazing to me how our kids know our stuff. I recall overhearing one son say, “Well, let’s put Mom’s spin on it. Where are my rose-colored glasses?”
I, too, seem to have both wings almost equally which has been confusing to me. It sounds like one can have both wings and depending on the situation one or the other will be the dominant one? Would you agree?
Also, does anyone know where the affirmation cards are? Can’t seem to find them.
Hi Nancy, yes, you can access both your wings, but usually one is more dominant. It is possible to have them equally present.
The PDF is at the top of the page, right under the “Enneatype Seven” Type
Thank you Gwen. Right under my proverbial nose!
Always a work in progress, I remind myself of “7”s’ gift to see magic and the Divine in the ordinary. I came across this from Tich Nhat Hanh that I think will resonate with fellow “7”‘s, especially at this time.
I asked the leaf whether it was frightened because it was autumn and the other leaves were falling. The leaf said, “No, during the whole spring and summer I was completely alive. I worked hard to nourish the tree and much of me is in the tree. I am not limited by this form. I am also the whole of the tree, and when I go back to the soil, I will continue to nourish the tree. So I don’t worry at all. As I leave this branch and float to the ground, I will wave to the tree and tell her, ‘I will see you again very soon’.”
That day there was a wind blowing and after a while I saw the leaf leave the branch and float down to the soil, dancing joyfully, because as it floated it saw itself already there in the tree. It was so happy. I bowed my head, knowing that I have a lot to learn from the leaf.
Thank you Tami. That is beautiful.
Thank you Tami! One of my mantras is “I’m as common as a field daisy.” It’s a line from Mary Oliver’s poem When Death Comes. “I think of each life as a flower, as common as a field daisy, and as singular” It reminds me that I am most in touch with the divine when I see how I am like the dirt, the trees, the ants, the flowers. All is connected, all is divine, and all is equal. I appreciate this comment very much!
Dear fellow 7s. I just read the affirmation card for both the 6 and the 8. I am now clear about my dominant wing! I am a 7 with an 8 wing dominant. I had been resisting the 8 energy but I am ready to claim it and very happy to be clear. Thank you Gwen for the cards. They are quite helpful/wonderful.
I would like to hear about how everyone is thinking about your wings. I feel like I have a slight wing, but it feels very subtle.
Hi Gwen, I think I have a 6 wing. I have been reading about that and it mostly fits. I’m still learning so not much to share yet. -Nancy
I have a question. I don’t understand how Co-Creation is the transformational idea for a 7. I don’t get how Avoidance and Best Case Thinking relate to that transformational idea. Any thoughts about this?
I think Co-Creation is the transformational idea because it forces us seven’s to slow down and look to others or to the divine. We often feel like we can take on the world – we can fix things – or if we can’t fix them we don’t want them anyway – so having to connect and create with another is a humbling process. We have to listen, slow down, be present, and acknowledge that we could be wrong.
Thank you Gwen. That is really helpful. Your words ring true as profound wisdom.
I realize that I didn’t really reflect on how the avoidance of pain ties into that idea of co-creation. We can only co-create if we are looking at reality. Both people/group in the act of co-creation need to start from the same place. If the situation has pain, we can’t skip ahead of the pain, we have to sit right in the middle of pain and acknowledge it is there. We can’t put on rose-colored glasses because the other person/group won’t see it in that light. When we lean into the pain, we can start from reality, not fantasy.
Pain? I don’t like pain! Kidding aside, I know it is an important part of life and pretending it doesn’t exist isn’t the best strategy. It’s just one I know well!
I easily identified with a 6 wing. I am sensing it is stronger than I first thought, but feel like I live in the paradox of always following the rules and breaking free to do things entirely my own way. Almost sounds schizophrenic! I find considering the influence of wings really helpful in understanding my behavior which sometimes perplexes me. God help my friends and family!
Hi Judi! I also have a six wing and have that same sense of paradox. In some ways, I love everyone and see everyone in the best light, but when I feel hurt I slide right into my six wing and feel people are no longer “safe.” I become wary (maybe even a little paranoid) that they will hurt me in the future. It is confusing. I’m grateful to have the insight of knowing where that strange and perplexing blend comes from.
Very well said Gwen. I identify completely. The fear of emotional pain. I know I have survived much emotional pain over the course of my lifetime, and not only has it not destroyed me, but I have gained real wisdom from moving through the pain. I feel that I am hard-wired to forever seek joy. And while that sounds like a positive statement, it has often times caused me to disconnect from reality, and to keep myself busy and distracted, rather that staying with what needs to be done. I have assumed that everyone is of course seeking joy and it is my job to help them find it. A life-long illusion. Sadly, I fear I have often been a source of annoyance.
Oh boy! This rings so true for me as well.
Gwen and Judi, I say Amen sisters! I, too, have a 6 wing and I completely know what you are both talking about. I am so familiar with the pattern of flipping from love and light to paranoid and angry if I feel even slightly hurt. And, a HUGE awareness for me recently has been that not everyone thinks our job on earth is to be happy. I truly thought everyone wanted that as their primary motivation in life. I even remember telling my kids that this is the goal of life. What a shock to learn that is not true for everyone.. Still blows my mind!
Judi and Nancy, so glad to hear your experiences that are so close to mine! We truly are sisters!
I have long been aware of my natural “6” wing, but over the years my “8” wing has gotten lots of exercise in my leadership roles. When I need to do so, I can be strong as a bull in a China shop, especially when there is a question of justice. To have a foot in two types that are assertive makes me a very strong advocate for those in danger of being tramped on! My natural tendency toward “6” shows up most in regard to fear. I can have a deep undercurrent of anxiety that saps my energy when I go there. That was very much the case in the months immediately preceding this past election. I am still aware of that undercurrent of fear as we remain in a state of uncertainty. I want things resolved with everybody happy!
Great insights! Yes, that “why can’t we all just be happy” feeling is very strong!!
Maryhelen, like you, I have been aware of my “6” wing for quite a while, but I realize that my “8” wing has long played a role in my life with both positive and negative outcomes. When something is important to me, I apparently “square my jaw and plunge ahead” according to my children. It’s amazing to me how our kids know our stuff. I recall overhearing one son say, “Well, let’s put Mom’s spin on it. Where are my rose-colored glasses?”
I, too, seem to have both wings almost equally which has been confusing to me. It sounds like one can have both wings and depending on the situation one or the other will be the dominant one? Would you agree?
Also, does anyone know where the affirmation cards are? Can’t seem to find them.
Hi Nancy, yes, you can access both your wings, but usually one is more dominant. It is possible to have them equally present.
The PDF is at the top of the page, right under the “Enneatype Seven” Type
Thank you Gwen. Right under my proverbial nose!
Always a work in progress, I remind myself of “7”s’ gift to see magic and the Divine in the ordinary. I came across this from Tich Nhat Hanh that I think will resonate with fellow “7”‘s, especially at this time.
I asked the leaf whether it was frightened because it was autumn and the other leaves were falling. The leaf said, “No, during the whole spring and summer I was completely alive. I worked hard to nourish the tree and much of me is in the tree. I am not limited by this form. I am also the whole of the tree, and when I go back to the soil, I will continue to nourish the tree. So I don’t worry at all. As I leave this branch and float to the ground, I will wave to the tree and tell her, ‘I will see you again very soon’.”
That day there was a wind blowing and after a while I saw the leaf leave the branch and float down to the soil, dancing joyfully, because as it floated it saw itself already there in the tree. It was so happy. I bowed my head, knowing that I have a lot to learn from the leaf.
Thank you Tami. That is beautiful.
Thank you Tami! One of my mantras is “I’m as common as a field daisy.” It’s a line from Mary Oliver’s poem When Death Comes. “I think of each life as a flower, as common as a field daisy, and as singular” It reminds me that I am most in touch with the divine when I see how I am like the dirt, the trees, the ants, the flowers. All is connected, all is divine, and all is equal. I appreciate this comment very much!
Dear fellow 7s. I just read the affirmation card for both the 6 and the 8. I am now clear about my dominant wing! I am a 7 with an 8 wing dominant. I had been resisting the 8 energy but I am ready to claim it and very happy to be clear. Thank you Gwen for the cards. They are quite helpful/wonderful.
I’m so glad they are useful!